{ a reflection on Friday }


This was the email i received at 11:44 a.m on Friday, October 2, 2009:

Dear Rebecca & Chris,
CONGRATULATIONS!!! Your file became active with X Adoption Agency today, October 2, 2009.

It was one of the best emails i have ever received. As i literally typed back to the adoption coordinator in tears, as well as the Director, Social Worker, Caseworker and all the other wonderful people we have met along the way, i was shaking. The only way i can really describe it was that i "felt" pregnant. Not that i'll ever experience pregnancy per se, but this is the closest i'll come before having a baby in my arms. It feels like i am "fertile" now, that we could get matched at anytime. Now we really are going to have a baby. No more shots, no more ultra-sounds, no more blood work, no more BFN's, no more RE visits. Only ups and downs and happiness on this new ride. It feels like a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders. I know GOD has his plan, and you better believe it is a good one!

So i just about called everyone under the sun, sent texts and emails and then...... we celebrated! Our way.
We visited one of our favorite restaurants Bomber's Bar. Of course we told our waitress and she brought us a shot and some drink coins! We had some great food and great conversation. On our way home, Christopher called our local wine store that we go to all the time and had the guy we know there put a bottle of Champagne on ice for us. He stopped to pick up my favorite ice-cream and had an amazing, yet simple and sweet card for me. I was so stinking happy!

I have to say, that even a few days later, it still feels so good, not stressful and not anxious (yet). We are looking forward to this journey and are prepared for a wait regardless of the length.

Through my life, i have to say that i don't have any regrets at all. I will say though, i remember about 2.5 years ago when Christopher wanted to start having a family. We were in the process of buying a home and i was thinking..."no, not yet. We will be that couple who gets pregnant the first time. That won't be good as we are house hunting and moving." Well, if i had only known GOD's plan at that time. I have really learned to live life as it will be and to know and understand that things are meant to be and there is a great plan for us for our life. So my one and only regret is not living life and letting be what was going to be. If i had, we probably would have had this feeling months ago!

So... what i have done is come up with the Top 10 Reasons to Adopt after failed fertility treatments:
1. no morning sickness
2. no stretch marks
3. no weight gain
4. no eating for 2
5. the unknown can be an amazing thing!
6. i get to still drink my wine =) (shots at Bomber's Burrito Bar)
7. no more ultrasounds!!
8. no more blood draws ( i was beginning to look like a druggie and wore long sleeves on hot days)
9. I get to give a baby the best life ever!
10. We get to be parents in probably one of the most rewarding way that might not have a chance otherwise.


Nikki said...

Congratulations! We have friends that are trying to adopt and they are ready to get that email or call. It has been fun for me to follow your journey. I hope you don't have a long wait.

Michelle said...

Congratulations!! This is such great news- so happy for you guys :-)

Sarah said...

My eyes are tearing up...this is amazing!!! Congratulations, Rebecca!!! Wow, what a huge weight to have lifted off your shoulders, to know all the hard work (uh, except for when the baby actually comes!!) is over and that you are in the running. You are going to be awesome parents, someone will recognize this soon, don't worry:) Thanks for the list, although #8 is not making me feel so great;) So, just for an overall timeline...you started/made the decision in March, and now it is October and you in the pool? Is that right, so about 8 months?

Jess LC said...

Congratulations! I am so happy for you. And those are wonderful reasons for adopting a baby.

Hoity Toity Baby said...

I am so happy for you guys! You are going to be amazing parents!!! Even though having a baby of your own would be a special event in your life, becoming parents through adoption comes with it's own type of "special".

I am over the moon for you both and will pray that your baby comes sooner rather than later!

Much love from HTB!

Renee said...

You get all the joy's of parenthood with the pregnancy and lets be honest isn't being parents whats really important..and don't you worry and adopted child is very much "your own"
It has nothing to do with biology and DNA. Its all about the love of two parents for a child. You guys will be a blessed family and i hope it happens soon.

Rebecca said...

thanks everyone! I appreciate the well wishes.

@Sarah- i know.. #8 is the worst. Our timeline was actually a tad shorter. After our failed IVF in March, we ultimately knew adoption was the route we wanted to take. We researched and didn't sign on with our agency until mid-June. So technically, it was only about 3.5 months. VERY fast, we were really aggressive!

bklyn76 said...

is it weird that i'm teary-eyed over here reading about a virtual "stranger"? i really do feel connected to you after reading your blog. thank you for writing about your journey. i hope the wait will be short until you get that wonderful call that your baby has arrived!

Tilda B. Hervé said...

congratulations rebecca!!i'm really happy for you!

Rebecca said...

@brklyn - you are so sweet, thank you!

@tilda - thank you so much!

All the comments make ME teary eyed. I can't wait to share some good news.


and i'm crying...CONGRATULATIONS!

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